Neighbours From Hell in Britain: October 2005 Newsletter
VOLUME: 12
DATE: 22/10/05
SUBJECT: Neighbours From Hell in Britain: October 2005 Newsletter
Neighbours From Hell in Britain (NFHiB) - Newsletter: October
2005 (HTML Version)
Happy Birthday NFHiB!
It has been a while since I have written and I do apologise for that.
NFHiB has been going from strength to strength and we are now fast approaching our third birthday! Yep, we will be three on 24th October 2005.
In the last three years we have been joined by almost 8,000 people, all
suffering or needing to know about the cursed Neighbours From Hell.
When we started NFHiB three years ago, we never realised that there were
so many people who suffered at the hands of NFH (Neighbours From Hell)!
The majority of our members are from around the UK but we also have international
members who are given a warm welcome, along with everyone else.
In the last three years we have also had a fair share of publicity with
articles in papers, such as The Express, The Sunday Telegraph and also
The Times!
Members have also taken part in radio interviews to explain to the outside world what it is actually like to have a NFH. As we all know, unless you experience the harassment and worry of living with a NFH you cannot truly understand what members go through, how lives can be affected and how our health suffers.
We were even asked to take part in a Home Office report recently!
I bet that you know someone who has NFH. You might not know it though! Someone you see at the school gates, some one at your work place, or someone in your gym even!
So as a birthday present to NFHiB, I would like to ask you to tell at least one person about us please.
If every member of NFHiB tells just one person, who might in turn know
someone who has a NFH, our membership could double and then we would
truly be a force to be reckoned with.
"But how could I do that with out revealing that I have NFH?"
I hear you ask.
Please go to our resources section, there you will find posters that you
can print off.
Ask if you can put one up in your local community centre or your local library, maybe the post office or even your nearest police station. In fact anywhere there is a notice board!
Ask the school if they could put one up, they might even discuss such
an issue as part of the curriculum.
You can also print off smaller cards from the resources section:
- Small NFHiB Cards (MS Word Format)
These are great to put into your pocket! Personally I carry a supply of them around; once an IT section employee came to fix the computer at work and as we were talking he told me about his NFH, so naturally I gave him a card! He was not aware there was help and support out there for his needs. Sadly there are still so many people who feel alone when they have to deal with NFH.
So let us all do something for someone else, let us spread the word and tell-a-friend about Neighbours From Hell in Britain, it will make someone else feel less alone.
You can of course use the NFHiB tell-a-friend form which is on the main site and it is also linked from the top of the forum.
- Tell-A-Friend about NFHiB
So if you are going to do anything this month, please, please pass the
word on. By doing this we will not only be celebrating our birthday
but will also be helping someone else out.
So a big happy third birthday to us! That means you, because with
out YOU we would not have NFHiB at all.
Symptoms of a Victim
For this newsletter I have permission to use a post from the forum board. It is a post that made us all think hard and was written by sesentayuno. It is followed by quotes from other forum board members.
The post reads:
Hi all,
I am a regular visitor and reader of the site, I use it to do my research, look up on legislation and every time I feel depressed or upset about my situation, I would come in here to read a story and to find strength.
Many times I wonder why I feel comfortable and relieved after reading those stories. Was it because there is someone out there that is worse off than me? I suppose in some ways it does makes you think twice before being depressed over your own situation, because you know it could be worse.
But I think the main thing is because you can relate to so many of the stories, the feelings they have, the situation they are in, their thoughts, fears and hopes. Have you not come across a story and said, “that is exactly how I felt!” ?
So I thought of summarising a few things I have observed and the feelings I have had since I have NFH. If you are feeling the same, you are not alone:
1) You are reluctant to leave the house because you do not want your NFH to know you are out and damage your property on purpose; somehow you feel that by you being in the house, they would not dare to do anything. And when you are out, you are not in the mood to return, for fear of going back for more suffering or finding something broken. So it is an awkward situation where you do not wish to be out when you are in and in when you are out.
2) If you have KFH (Kids From Hell) like me who play football or other games, your heart skips a beat at the first instance when you hear the ball bounce, or the kids squeal.
3) You have no mood whatsoever to do any decoration, or any DIY to improve your house, it is almost as if you have given up hope on your property.
4) Your NFH pops up in your conversations at least once a day, like my
girlfriend puts says; it is as if they live with you.
5) You have a whole new understanding of the word trap.
6) When you have a period of peace, you wonder how long that will last.
These are just a few things I have been through myself; the list could grow and feel free to add on to them. It is not to make you feel worse. On the contrary, when I find that someone is feeling the same as myself, I feel a lot less lonely. Last but not least, thanks to everyone here who takes their time to share their story, you may not know it but in the process of seeking help you are helping others as well.
Other Forum Member Comments:
"The mental torture is just terrible and the physical symptoms are just awful. I honestly feel as if I am in a battle zone and it is all taking its toll on my health"
"Sad but true?"
"Yes, we know the meaning of the word trap. We say we feel like
prisoners in our own home"
"I cannot believe you have typed everything that goes through my
head on a daily basis"
"We ended up keeping our curtains closed most of the time; it was
affecting us all so much"
"The feelings I am afraid are still very much there, there was no
victories for me with said NFH"
"I know that numb feeling, I do not seem to be able to feel any
emotion anymore"
"I, like you all, only want what is my right - a right to enjoy my
home and my life without recourse to this all pervading psychological
torture inflicted on me&"
"Before I go out I feel sick and apprehensive. My heart pounds,
hands shake..."
"My life has become much narrower and so has that of my young
son and husband"
Please do come and read the entire thread at the NFHiB
Forum Community, it really does make you think about what has happened
to our lives and it makes you realise that we all suffer in similar ways
and have similar feelings.
We at NFHiB are NOT ALONE.
So until next time take care one and all and look after yourselves,
Beth
Contact: beth@nfh.org.uk
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