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goosegirl
09-08-05, 06:13 PM
Hi all,

We have had bad MIL'S what about bad sisters.

One more visit from my older sister, and I think I will be refusing any contact from her in the future. What brought me to this stage? :badmood:

Here are a few examples.

My next door neighbour used to talk with us, every time we passed on our way out of our houses we would say hello etc. We baby sat when the kids were young.
My sister and ex used to go out with them on a evening. Then her ex slept around, and our neighbours husband had a affair. :(

When ever my sister was supposed to visit us, she would see us about 5 minutes then disappear next door for a couple of hours. I felt a bit put out but thought they had simaler problems so left them to it. :banghead:

Any way one day my sister said that my neighbours daughter had shouted to her mum, that nutty women is here to see you, meaning her. :angry:

Shortly after next doors stopped talking to us, I assumed they had just got a different lifestyle and friends. So we just stopped caring and picked other people to talk to. :(

We only mentioned what my sister said during a row about noise they made. They accused us of trying to stir it. :angry:

Sorry if this is long. :blush:

When my sister and I lived here our mum died 6 months ago. My sister wanted her fella to move in, and me to move out. Being disabled and on benifit I felt unable to cope or afford a place of my own at that time.

After her fella breaking a plate over my head, because I asked him to talk things out with me, because we were not getting any where us both sulking in corners.

I went and phoned the police at a neighbours, then they let him stay until my sister moved else were with him.

My sister is the me, me, me, sort of person, always has being. She will talk none stop about her high lights of the day. But if I say any thing I have to repeat it.

Second example.

Her last visit with daughter, she moaned because our neighbour asked her to move so he could get out. Complained about him while we were sat on the patio drinking tea. Tried to get us to moan about our neighbours, while they were coming in and out with their windows open.

Told us that telling her our shop name and location, would make them do stuff to our store as well. Yet dare to mention any of her stuff, and its shut up I dont want people hearing my business they can hear etc.

This time we would change the subject, because we were on the patio again. So she said that the new bag of dry chipmunk food, that we gave her for her rabbit. She actually said that it was full of fleas, and she said it loudly so next door could hear it. I said it was utter rubbish. :rant:

I have never being the b*tchy type, not to my family or friends only to people I hate. So I feel like having no contact any more. Our neice will be really upset but what can we do. You are suppossed to hang around with people that make you feel good.

GG.

er 59
09-08-05, 07:55 PM
hi gg
i am the oldest girl i have four younger sisters and they are all pains in the rear end
terrible attention seekers selfish always getting in trouble and wanting me to bail them out when they were school age they would pick fights with people and then tell them my big sister will sort you out i had many an irrate parent chasing after me saying "i hear you are going to hit my daughter" the thing is i have never been an agressive person yet they earned me a reputation :rant:
my two older brothers are great im on their wave lenght we have a good relationship but the girls are just so b*tchy i cant be bothered with them
my youngest brother sadly died just over two years ago he was great and i miss him like hell he was my soul mate :cry:
maybe im just a tomboy who prefers male company but sisters you can keep em :lol:

goosegirl
09-08-05, 08:11 PM
There is 13 yrs differance between my sister and me. I get the feeling that she thinks I got all the attention from my parents. But I feel like my parents were there for my disability, medical stuff. But my mum had medical problems later when she had me. This meant I dont remember outings with my parents, any where. I only have pics of being a baby on holiday.

My sister all ways trys to make out I was really bad at school, but my sister was a real rebel when young. Yet I never say any thing nasty about her. But now I feel like I should.

GG.

er 59
09-08-05, 08:20 PM
its a strange world there's me moaning about my sisters and bk and dibbuz wishing they had one
i feel guilty now and that means im gonna have to be nice to them :rolleyes:
you are both welcome to one of mine i dont mind honestly :lol:

Eeyore
10-08-05, 06:54 AM
I'm an only child and I'm quite happy with that especially as I've seen what problems can occur between siblings :(

Mr Eeyores 2nd brother and him do not get on, never have, Mr Eeyores brother has always been favoured by his parents, he got taken out for days and Mr Eeyore who is quite shy was seen as "awkward" and spent his childhood in his bedroom. :(

Enterian
10-08-05, 10:13 AM
I've got an older sister, she was always the favourite of my parents and she was always bossy.

She hasn't changed even now!

In a strange way I'm grateful, I've made my own way in the world because of it. My wife and kids are my family now.

Enterian

Annabel
10-08-05, 11:32 AM
I am the eldest sister in my family, in fact I am the eldest out of all our cousins, and I have never been jealous of any of them! I dont get it at all! When I was younger I used to fight like mad with my sister and on occason with my cousins, but that was more down to the fact that I really wanted them all to know I was the eldest and therefore, I was top dog! :lol: :lol:

But other than that, there were no real issues and in any case, when you grow up you grow out of petty childish rivalries and jealousies...or so I thought! :unsure:

What a shock to find my hubby's older bro and sister still carry on as though they are kids even though the eldest bro is 43, the sister 39 and my hubby 36! the jealousy, spite and rivalry amongst them is truly horrendous and very difficult to see going on. Most of it is directed at my hubby who as the youngest is just a complete idiot as far as they are concerned.... :rant:

They of course cannot see what they are doing one bit and none of them think they are in the wrong, of course no one can speak to each other anymore...aint it wonderful!!! :sad: :sad:

Lady Penelope
10-08-05, 01:11 PM
:) Well I have a sister who is 3 years older than me and she is probably the more sensible of the two of us :lol: We don't live close to each other either about 100 miles apart....we speak on the phone about every couple of months or so. I don't recall any jealousy from either of us...we are just very different...like chalk and cheese :rolleyes: The only thing we really have in common is our wine at 6pm :lol:

We do get on actually, though when we were younger we fought like cat and dog...(especially over the toaster in the morning I can recall :o ) I remember me always being the adventurous and extrovert one and getting in trouble the most. I'm quite defensive about my older sis and I remember my ex brother in law having the wroth of my tongue when he was being horrid to her. She's remarried now quite happily. In fact I was staying with them only the last 3 weeks....we had lots of fun and we used to call ourselves 'The Dangerous Sisters' :lol: Poor brother in law was a bit left out I think (sshhhh he is a bit like Victor Meldrew.... :hihi: I think he was relieved we left last friday....he did threaten to stay at his MIL when he knew we were coming :blink: )

Ho hum....families :rolleyes:

LPxxx

Oops almost forgot....Chicken Legs left his calling card on BIL's bedroom carpet the day we left :lol: