crackingup
29-11-09, 07:10 PM
Hi all, I've started my new job and all is perfect with the exception of one person.
My manager has assigned a team member to show me the ropes. He's a lovely fella personally, but I'm so biting my lip.
He's overly helpful and quite controlling. Everytime I do something, It's 20 questions. Why am I doing it, has the manager authorised it, when did I start the task etc etc.
Once I was asked to visit a customer by my manager, but I got a bit lost. I contacted my (tor)mentor to ask directions. About ten minutes later, I got the answer, but only after a barrage of questions as to why I'm going there, who said I could.
Once I was out with him. At a road, he said "watch out for the cars, it's a busy road". "Thanks", I said, "but I can cross roads safely". "yeah", he said, "but I'm sort of in charge of you aren't I and need to make sure your safe. Well not in charge of you, more like responsible for you". I could only reply that I'm 35 and quite responsible for myself.
When I'm filling out forms, he insists on telling me what to put in. This includes, for example, that I should write the date in a box clearly labelled as "today's date" or my name etc etc. He usually does this in front of other people as well and it's so embarrasing. He usually says it like this:
"Here, I'll show you how to fill this form in. What you need to do is put your name here [pointing to name bit], the date here [etc etc]", and then to the customer "sorry about this but he's new and I need to show him how to do the job". Of course, I can't say anything there and then to him because it would look bad.
Last week he offered, for my professional development portfolio, a piece of work he had completed and for advice to be given to a customer. I explained that I could not do it due to workload. He said "it's OK, when your on the phone to him I'll tell you what to say". I tried to explain the (obvious) problems with this and thanked him for the offer. Then he says "well don't say I didn't offer or try to do anything for you" as though I just threw it back in his face.
A big problem is that when you try to talk about this, it makes it sound like it's me who has the problem, but everyone else treats me normally and I get on well with them all.
It's really cracking me up and I'm scared that I'm going to lose it and say something I should not.
Any tips on how to handle him? I think that no matter what I say, it's going to look bad on me.
Sorry to go on!
My manager has assigned a team member to show me the ropes. He's a lovely fella personally, but I'm so biting my lip.
He's overly helpful and quite controlling. Everytime I do something, It's 20 questions. Why am I doing it, has the manager authorised it, when did I start the task etc etc.
Once I was asked to visit a customer by my manager, but I got a bit lost. I contacted my (tor)mentor to ask directions. About ten minutes later, I got the answer, but only after a barrage of questions as to why I'm going there, who said I could.
Once I was out with him. At a road, he said "watch out for the cars, it's a busy road". "Thanks", I said, "but I can cross roads safely". "yeah", he said, "but I'm sort of in charge of you aren't I and need to make sure your safe. Well not in charge of you, more like responsible for you". I could only reply that I'm 35 and quite responsible for myself.
When I'm filling out forms, he insists on telling me what to put in. This includes, for example, that I should write the date in a box clearly labelled as "today's date" or my name etc etc. He usually does this in front of other people as well and it's so embarrasing. He usually says it like this:
"Here, I'll show you how to fill this form in. What you need to do is put your name here [pointing to name bit], the date here [etc etc]", and then to the customer "sorry about this but he's new and I need to show him how to do the job". Of course, I can't say anything there and then to him because it would look bad.
Last week he offered, for my professional development portfolio, a piece of work he had completed and for advice to be given to a customer. I explained that I could not do it due to workload. He said "it's OK, when your on the phone to him I'll tell you what to say". I tried to explain the (obvious) problems with this and thanked him for the offer. Then he says "well don't say I didn't offer or try to do anything for you" as though I just threw it back in his face.
A big problem is that when you try to talk about this, it makes it sound like it's me who has the problem, but everyone else treats me normally and I get on well with them all.
It's really cracking me up and I'm scared that I'm going to lose it and say something I should not.
Any tips on how to handle him? I think that no matter what I say, it's going to look bad on me.
Sorry to go on!