Stress tips anyone?

[kebea41]

Hi Everybody, :)

Thought i would start a thread on tips for stress anyone know any or how do you cope with stress?
How do you calm yourself down when having a bad day with NFH?

I have the handy headphones with a good source of calm music, sit up straight and comfortable in a chair, put your right hand on the lower half of your stomach, put your left hand just under your ribcage and breath deeply feeling your ribs and stomach slowly going up and down with the calming music.
I was told to do this for 1 min then rest for 5 mins.
Believe me it worked i did feel silly when i first tried it but i still do this and it work everytime.

The other tip i was given was to lay on the bed with the curtains closed once again relaxing music playing through your headphones and imaging you were in a beautiful peaceful place where there was no one but you, image the sea making gentle waves and the soft sounds of the trees gently flowing in the background.

I know this may sound silly but when i was under the councilling this is what i had to do and boy did i feel better after.

Try it anyone the main thing is to concertrate on your dream for a while this way you get away from the NFH for a little while anyway.

Anyone else any tips for calming people down?.

[WillThereEverBeSilence]

I bought a cross trainer. I do about 50 miles of running on it a week.

So although metally I am shot, I could run a marathon no problems... :(

Exercise can be quite useful at diffusing your frustrations.

[red2357]

HI,

I go swimming twice a week which really helps me sleep those nights as I'm so tired/drained.

I also have this picture in my bedroom of the sun setting over calm waters, its very tranquil to look at. I imagine myself sat on the waters edge, watching the sunset and listening to the tree rustle in the breeze (the tree surround the lake as well as mountainside). Its all in burnt oranges and deep browns so its warming rather than cold blue colours if you see what I mean.

I think I should try the breathing thing though, especially when I feel my breathing become restricted/difficult with the stress and it would probably help my stress headaches too - thanks for the advice.
:D

[StoneHenge]

I used to practice a lot of breathing exercises and this really help focus my mind on something other than the music banging through the walls and did wonders when I gave birth to my second child.

I found it very hard to completely relax at home because of my old NFH, so I used to go out walking to a quiet place, take deep breaths and just lose myself. Very theraputic.

[rakki]

Lay down, empty your head. concentrate on tightening up every muscle in your body starting with your head and working down to your toes. hold every muscle tight for a few seconds then slowly relax each group of muscles until you reach your head again. sounds strange and needs loads of concentration to do but at the end of it you have forgoten what has stressed you out in the first place

[Hulablush]

I know it sounds dodgy but sometimes the only that works is a :glug: :cheers: but only if I'm really fed up!!!

No, it is not a good solution but thought I would mention it!

[ellengrace]

I have chosen to edit this post in it's entirety, and must both thank and apologise to the members who had responded.

ellengrace.

[sp54]

Ellengrace, I am so sorry to hear you have been ill :( and so very sorry about the letter and its affect on you.

Maybe we would all handle things differently with our NFH if we could see into the future. I know you have suffered and fought for a very very long time and you must be a remarkable person to do that :notworthy: :notworthy:

I think there is a 'once you start you have to continue' element with NFH as for many it is a matter of principle, and others a matter of practicalities.

For sure, when our own problem started [ 3 years ago early next year so nowhere near as long as yours] we thought it would be 6 - 8 weeks before it was resolved by our objections to the adjoining house being converted into flats. Little did we know it would last so long, and the end is not in sight yet. We also underestimated the pure evil of our NFH who has put my entire family through hell.He drove all of us, including our 3 children to the very brink of a complete breakdown and living our lives in fear and dread all day, every day.One of my sons was made very ill through him :angry: . He is also - we know for a fact - into lots of crooked dealings and will stop at nothing to get what he wants and still targets us. Meanwhile we are living next to illegally converted flats and suffering the intolerable noise and disruption we knew would occur on a daily basis.

If we knew back then we would still be fighting 3 years later I think I would have lost the will to continue there and then, but now, we are in it for the long haul :( Our house is unsellable and very much devalued. A court case is looming by our own LA, and us too if we can.

For decent people like all of us, ellengrace, it is grossly unfair, and I can feel your pain :cry: But we just have to fight on, we have no alternative, sadly.

I hope you gain some comfort from the knowledge that you are not alone, and there are so many of us having to fight on, because we have no other choice.

Please look after your health, and come on here as much as you need to feel less alone. We care very much.

Thinking of you :friends:

sp xx