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On top of loosing my job in November, clinical depression and a NFH.I've now got a lump in my breast which I found out yesterday is a type of cancer.
Has anybody else expereinced/been through this?
Hi fleur
I am sorry to hear that :( What are they going to do for you?
My sister had breast cancer at a young age almost 15 years ago now, and she is absolutely fine :D :thumbs:
Sorry I can't be of more help, but send you a big hug :friends: and a big :P to your NFH
Take care, and keep us posted. Sending good vibes your way :)
love sp54 xx
Domestic Goddess
11-08-06, 02:13 PM
First of all, big hugs.
My mum has had leukemia, breast cancer and overian cancer and she has survived the lot. Huge steps forward have been made with cancer treatments and many, many brave women win the battle against this spiteful disease.
I really admire how brave you are and will be praying for you.
Why not try to find out if there are any local support groups near you - my mum went to one called bosom buddies and made some great friends.
You might find this link useful too:
http://www.macmillan.org.uk/home.aspx
love
DG
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StoneHenge
11-08-06, 02:16 PM
Hi Fleur,
There are some amazing advances in cancer treatment now. And there are a lot of good support organisations out there too.
I've known a few women who have had breast cancer and come through it stronger than ever, so you make sure you take care of yourself.
We are all here for you.
Hi Fleur
I am so sorry
Support groups are a great way of meeting people in a similar situation, Macmillan nurses are great too, but also the internet, you can find out allsorts there and probably find a lot of people who have been through and are going through what you
We'll also give you lots of support here
Take care
tortoise
11-08-06, 06:24 PM
Hi Fleur,
So sorry to hear your sad news.
I found a lump in my breast, which turned out to be a bad infection. I lost part of my breast.
I remember the feeling of dread I had and I do really feel for you.
The rest are right treatment nowadays is brilliant. My Nan had breast cancer in 1991. She had radiation therapy and is now 76 and fighting fit!
Good luck to you and we are thinking of you.
The T's xx :wub:
Hi fleur, really sorry to hear your news.
Mr T's mom had breast cancer just over 5 years ago, she is now very healthy and fighting fit. As everyone else has said the treatment these days is terrific.
Good Luck and sending positve vibes your way. Take care.
sassieb
11-08-06, 07:09 PM
Oh Fleur,, how awful.
I dont know a great deal about it but i wanted to send you hugs and positive vibes from all the Sassie family
hi fleur
im sorry to hear your news
not much i can add to what has already been said just remember we are all here for you :flowers2:
Sparrow
11-08-06, 07:21 PM
Hi Fleur,
Just wanted to say how sorry I was to read your sad news and to add my support and hugs to you :friends:
Good luck we will be thinking of you
Sparrow
Miss Understood
11-08-06, 07:47 PM
Fleur, I don't have experience of breast cancer but just wanted to say
Big Virtual Hugs
and if there's anything we can do on this board, by giving you moral support or whatever whilst you're going through treatment, just let us know and we'll be here.
:clover:
Hi Fleur
iIve known and worked with quite a few people who have had breast cancer who have got through it. The thing to remember is they are catching these cancers a lot earlier now which make the treatments much more effective. Yes, the treatment is unpleasant at the time, but the chances of a full recovery are now much higher.
Take care and remember, stay strong, we are all behind you in this fight :flowers:
fingerscrossed
11-08-06, 10:10 PM
just wanted to say thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs
:angel:
Eeyores mam
12-08-06, 10:47 AM
Hi Fleur,
I am so sorry to hear your news but can say it is definitely treatable.
My sister in law had breast cancer 16 years ago, went in for the operation and all the other things that go with it and this week at the age of 76 she is moving house. She is on 5 committees and volunteers for all sorts of events where she lives. In fact it is very hard to catch her in so there is life after breast cancer.
I hope all goes well with you and send you lots of love.
Eeyores mam
the kick off
12-08-06, 08:43 PM
I have just recently had a breast 'scare' and had another type of cancer many years ago so I can understand how scared and anxious you must be feeling, on top of your existing depression.
I can only echo what everyone else has said and the chances of a complete cure are very high these days. There should be a breast care advisor attached to your hospital - they will be able to talk to you and you can find out what to expect. Often the fear of the unknown is worse than the reality.
Fleur you have coped with so much recently, you are strong and you can kick this.
Try to blot your NFH out of your mind as much as possible if you can and concentrate on yourself and getting better.
Sending big hugs and good vibes.
Kick off :friends: :flowers:
phantos02
14-08-06, 12:38 AM
Hi fleur, I'm sorry to hear your news :(
I don't have first hand experience but my mother in law had breast cancer some years ago. She had the whole breast removed. She is doing absolutely fine now, no signs of it returning. She's in her late fifteis but she's one of the fittest people I know and could eaily pass for 15 years younger.
She also had a breast reconstruction which she said was more traumatic than having the cancer.
Hopefully it has been caught early, you can get treated and make a full recovery.
Sending positive vibes your way
Phantos xxx
Dear Fleur
I was sad to read your news.
:cry:
I am guessing that this was detected quite early on in the cancer process, i.e primary stage? If so, the treatments available for early detection cancers have a good success rate these days.
The Cancerbackup organisation are a wonderful resource, as well as the fantastic Macmillan organisation. Navigate your way around the following site - where you shall find some more great information and support of where to go from here: http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Aboutcancer...sessmentresults (http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Aboutcancer/Screening/Breastscreening/Assessmentresults)
My mum used the Lynda Jackson Centre (which is affiliated with the Macmillan service), as they were close to the hopsital where she had her treatment (for a different sort of cancer). I take the liberty of posting their support information from their website for you, even though you may not be in Greater London - but if you are, I hope you find this information helpful? These are the support groups, with details in the London area: http://www.ljmc.org/Documents/Support%20Groups.pdf
Take each day as it comes
Take care
BettyP
Thankyou for all your replies, I'm in Leicestershire so when I go to the hospital I'm going to ask if there is any local support groups, thanks again for all your help.
Good luck fleur, and we will all be thinking of you.
Please keep us informed, won't you?
:flowers2:
sp xx
Went for the result of my tests today, should be having the operation on the 30 August will be in hospital for 7/8 days. The Department for Work and Pensions want proof/evidence, due to me being on incapacity benefit. :badmood: Just what I need hassle from them.
I have to go for a pre-assessment before the op, thanks again for your support.
ellengrace
17-08-06, 11:46 PM
Fleur, I hope you find out about local support groups straight away. My friend found it an enormous relief to be able to spend time with women (and men,too) who had the same experience. Members of the group visited her in hospital, gave her all their phone numbers, kept in touch thro' her convalesence.
You have been in my thoughts since you posted the other day. Wishing you well, and some prayers for you. xxxxx
Sparrow
17-08-06, 11:50 PM
Just wanted to send my best wishes to you :flowers:
Sparrow x
Hello fleur :) I have been thinking of you
Sorry you are getting hassle from the Dept of w&p - you could really do without any extra problems right now :(
My sister had to have the op. too, and had a wonderful positive mental attitude towards it which amazed us all. They do say a PMA helps a lot during the recovery process and I am sure you will have a great nurse to help you adjust.
Stay strong, hun :)
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Domestic Goddess
18-08-06, 12:04 AM
You're in my thoughts and prayers
hugs
DG
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Hello fleur,
I have just caught up here - so sorry to hear you are going through all this. I can't add to what everyone has already said, just echo it - remember we are all here for you! :salut:
Love,
Smoo X
Back home at last. There were 2 tumours which were removed, but the nodes they take from under your arm showed cancer cells, so I'm waiting for a chemo appt. I've also got an infection in the breast. The District Nurses have just gone, they left me a load of dressings. The Macmillan nurse is coming on Friday, i've been told that they can also sort out any financial problems as well, so I'm going to sort out all the letters from the benefit agency.
Speak to you all again soon.
Good to hear from you fleur :)
Sorry to hear you have an infection - that makes you feel rotten on top of it all I bet?
Aren't the Macmillan Nurses great?
My 34 year old nephew had testicular cancer a couple of years ago and he and his wife found them so supportive and helpful.
Take great care and get lots of rest. Hope your appointment comes through soon so you can get started on that. The sooner you start, the sooner it finishes, huh?
Thinking of you
sp xx
StoneHenge
12-09-06, 01:11 PM
Nice to hear from you. Glad the op went well. Let's hope the chemo sees off the cells in your nodes.
Hope the infection clears up soon too. Time for some pampering for you.
marieuk
12-09-06, 09:47 PM
Hi fleur
Thinking of you and sending you lots of positive vibes i hope the infection is sorted soon and good luck with ur treatment we are always here for you as you are having a rotten time
Take care honey
Love Muk xxxxxxxxxx
coppernob
12-09-06, 10:38 PM
Hi Fleur,I missed this thread before,sorry I havn't posted on it until now but would just like to send you my best wishes and lots and lots of positive Karma.I hope the infection clears up soon. Let the nurses help yoy with your finances for you,that's one less thing for you to worry about until Friday !!Hugs to you,CN
Miss Understood
12-09-06, 10:39 PM
Thinking of you Fleur :hugs:
Hi fleur
Sending lots of positive thoughts your way, thank goodness you are getting support from MacMillan nurses.
Keep us posted as to how things are, everything crossed for you
Flat Two
13-09-06, 09:58 AM
Hi Fleur
I had breast cancer last year. I was told that of all the cancers it's the one to have !!
The treatment for it is so effective and the hospitals are getting brilliant results. Isn't the biopsy horrible?
If you're into 'Metaphysics' at all Louise L. Hay says that the cause of breast problems is 'A refusal to nourish the self'. I'm not sure I go for all the other stuff that's in her books but the diagnosis section is enlightening to say the least.
I wasn't eating properly, had been driven out of my career, was depressed and frightened - so much so that I didn't even go shopping for clothes or food. I had all but given up living.
These problems are coming back at the moment because I now believe my NFH is probably attached to the people who ruined my career. It's bizarre!!! No sign of cancer though.
Anyway - have a think how you can improve the quality of your life. If you paint then paint, if you sing then sing, if you dance then go on get moving but don't stress whilst you're in treatment.
Also go to this site for something different www.odyssey.org.uk it's a break from the NFH as well.
The very best of luck my darlin' and stay in touch.
Flat Two xxx
Went the hospital yesterday, I'm having transport from the hospital, I can't drive. The tumour was 3cm with a lot of little tumours around it. I'm to have chemotherapy, I go next week to be shown around the chemo suite and discuss things with a nurse. I've been told that I will lose my hair, went into my local loros shop where I do some volunteer work, trying on hats which was a good laugh :hihi: , I've got 2 so far, the manageress just waved away any payment.
Will keep on giving you all a progress report, the Macmillan nurse is going to see if there is anything else I can claim, at the moment I'm having to manage on £70.05 a week.
Sedning lots of positive vibes your way fleur, please get all the info you want and need, if you think of something write it down so you remember what to ask
Take care, we are all with you and fighting with you :)
Good to hear from you fleur :)
How are you feeling in yourself?
Great idea buying hats before you need them. Gives you a chance to come to terms with the idea too.
Take care xx
StoneHenge
21-09-06, 09:39 AM
Hi Fleur,
It's lovely to hear from you. My dad was diagnosed with cancer of the gullett last year and had a majot op in November to remove the tumour he had. A lot of reconstructive work was had, and he also had some chemo because some of his lymph nodes were effected.
I have to say, although he was tired from the chemo, he coped really well. He did loose his hair and shaved his head after a while, but didn't suffer too much with sickness, so you may find you feel better than you think.
When he finished his chemo, his hair grew back, not only dark brown (he had been turning grey before), but even in the place where he was going bald, so you will get your locks back.
I hope the nurse is able to help with more financial advice. Managing on so little must be very hard, especially when it's not something you really want to be thinking about whilst you are getting better.
Fingers crossed you get some more help with this, so you can at least treat yourself!
When is your first session? We will all be thinking of you and sending you good vibes.
sassieb
21-09-06, 11:25 AM
Hi Fleur
Lovley to see you :)
Sending huge amounts of positive vibes your way as well as a few cyber hugs
Sending positive thouyghts your way Fleur :flowers2:
Hi fleur, the tact household are sending loads of positive healing vibes your way.
God bless and take care. :flowers2:
hi fleur
just sending you my good wishes and to say good luck with the chemo :flowers2: will be thinking of you
ellengrace
21-09-06, 10:26 PM
Hello again, Fleur. :)
Just a note to say you have been in my thoughts and prayers.....and will remain so now that you are home from hospital.
Take extra special care of yourself, try not to allow money-worries to absorb your energy, and only allow positive people to absorb your time.
Don't be backward in coming forward, in any matters that involve your sense of well-being.
Ask (firmly) for questions or answers to be repeated if you are unsure. Make certain your requests have been understood..... don't just assume the uniforms and impressive bags of tricks are going to guarantee professional competence.
Imagine yourself to be assessing people for job vacancies: the job in hand, whatever the position or skill, is to care for Fleur to the very best of their ability.
I hope you did find a patients' support group.... it's hard, if you aren't naturally "clubbable", joining any new group. I'm the sort of person who would hate it, but my friend did benefit enormously at the time , and still keeps in touch with some of her group six years later!
I'm not in the forum much any more, but will look out for your news.
Best wishes,
Ellengrace
Sorry I've not been in touch for so long. First chemo went ok, wasn't sick but it was a long day at the hospital, there for 7 hours waiting for treatment that lasts 1/2 hour :bigeyes: Go again tomorrow for second chemo, if my blood test is ok. Hair is coming out in handfulls, I'm wearing hats when I go out.
Macmillan nurse has applied for a grant for me from the charity, I would prefer it if the money came from the government, and has referred me to another organisation to help with applying for income support. Hopefully things financially will improve.
Bye for now :kisss:
Hello fleur :)
I have been thinking about you so it is good to hear from you again - thanks for keeping us posted :)
A SEVEN hour wait for half an hours treatment? :cry: That is dreadful - not what you need at all :( . I am glad the first chemo went ok and didn't make you feel sick. Good luck tomorrow - I hope you aren't kept waiting so long this time.
The Macmillan nurses are great and I am glad they are trying to sort things out financially for you - one less thing to worry about would be a huge help. It does sound very positive though :)
Take care ,hun :flowers2:
hi fleur
good luck for tommorow lets hope you arent kept waiting around for hours again
lovely to hear from you thanks for updating us all with how you are getting on :)
ellengrace
20-10-06, 07:31 PM
Hello again, Fleur. :) Hope today's treatment went well, and that you were not kept waiting around like last time.
I hope you don't become too upset about your hair. It'll grow again. The main thing is that you are in a phase of healing, of treatment, and that you take extra-special care of yourself...not just physically, but mentally, too. You have mentioned worries about finances before, so I hope you can find as much help and advice possible...and soon...to alleviate those worries.
Did you have the opportunity to talk with other patients whilst waiting for the chemo to start? I was wondering if you did ever find a local support group?
Anyway, look after yourself, and hope to hear from you soon, lots of people thinking about you.
ellengrace xxx
fingerscrossed
21-10-06, 12:27 AM
Hello Fleur,
Just wanted to give you my support and best wishes. Try and stay strong.
xx :angel: :angel: :angel: